I prefer dating to hook-ups, myself having been in two serious relationships during college, one of which is still going post-graduation. I definitely prefer it to hooking up because it brings more of a human element back to sex. Every once in awhile we do something fun like cook together or go out together but we usually just hang out at each other’s apartments. I’m in my first real relationship ever! It's really nice to have someone always there and interested in my day and who wants to spend time with me. Guys don’t ever approach me and people say it’s because I’m intimidating but I literally look like I’m 12 years old so I don’t get it.
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Good luck, after being in the closet for 7 years, its so nice to be free to be who I am.I’m happy being single, but I also like the idea that there’s someone out there who likes you, thinks about you all the time, and wants to be with you. Yes, you will hear students make homophobic comments every now and then but for the most part, college is very tolerant of people who are different from them. Most people are okay with the fact that I am a lesbian.
You can also try your counselor's office and see if they have some sort of support group (many do because LGBT youth are more likely to commit suicide and suffer from depression compared to straight kids). If you want to meet other LGBT students, go to the office of student organizations and ask if they have an LGBT student support group. I am so glad that I went up to my professor and asked them for help! I talked with him and he invited me to the meetings. She told me about another gay student who is REALLY involved on campus and is the leader for the largest LGBT support group on campus. However, I don't think she was shocked that I was gay but that I was asking her for help. When I went to the second professor about my sexuality, she seemed a bit shocked. She told me about my other professor in a different class who is really involved with LGBT events on campus (she is a straight ally BTW). The first person I told was my professor for freshman orientation (she and I are really close so I felt comfortable with her). I am also a lesbian and I just finished my first semester at a very large (about 30,000 people) university and I found that many people are very accepting of my sexuality. Be open and honest with the people you like, and things will sort of just happen. So don't worry about your late start - you have very little to catch up on. I've never heard of any silly rules about who's supposed to initiate what step of the relationship, and certainly never felt bound to any "roles" in my relationships. Whereas even my most liberal heterosexual friends still seem to follow the "boyfriend-pays-for-the-girlfriend" routine, I've been on dates with my boyfriend where I've paid, dates where he's paid, and times where we've each paid our own way.
But there are not really well-established norms when it comes to dating. Sure, you still have to avoid saying stupid things. Moreover, one of the best things about being gay (at least from what I've experienced) is that it's practically impossible to be "socially retarded" when it comes to dating. If anybody will understand that it took you a while to begin dating, it's other gay guys. A lot of people have had the same experience as you - you shouldn't view yourself as entering some world where everyone expects you to be experienced at dating. But something you should know about your atypical experience as a gay youth is that it sets you up for an atypical romantic future.